A Change Will Do Us Good

on Monday, November 17, 2008

We survived these past 2 weeks, in great part to prayer & in great part to friends and family that have rallied around us. In the midst of Jean passing away, we tried to keep the girls going with their normal activities (Girl Scouts, School, Soccer, play dates, etc.) but it was quite the challenge. Taylor did not win her bid for election to President of her school, although her speech was fantastic! Little spats along the way with rivers of tears and emotion were easy to identify as being caused by other things. We have persevered.



In addition to being joined at the hip with the Burton family, Sammie and I finished our soccer season together and we've already had our team party. It was fun to coach my "Super Stars" and come to the realization that Sammie isn't ready to play a different sport in the spring. She earnestly wants to continue playing soccer and so I've signed up to be her coach again in the spring. Taylor's Team finished soccer just this past weekend, earning a top finishing spot (#1) in the league going into the playoffs, and finishing 2nd as a team in the season-ending tournament. Emotional as it was to finish in 2nd place, the team really pushed hard through 3 playoff games including a double-overtime ending! We were all exhausted, and the 90 degree weather didn't help to cool the emotion of the finish. As a parent I would have loved to see Taylor play a more forward position for more than the 1 quarter she played this weekend, however she's a stellar center-D (center defensive guard) and works amazingly with the goalie. It's easy to see why the coach chose to keep her there. Emotions ran high on the side lines, but we've all breathed a sigh of relief to put this season behind us. Taylor is already talking of spring soccer and is excited to try out for the Plus team at the conclusion of spring. Way to rebound T!

As if soccer wasn't enough, our girls ALSO participated in the annual talent show at their school. Taylor and her friend Ellie did a beautiful piano/violin duet to "Silent Night," and Sammie and her best buddie Abby sang a duet to "Crocodile Rock." They really got the audience into their performance, and neither act showed any real signs of nerves. What pro's! Eric's Dad and Uncle were on hand for the talent show, and really enjoyed the comic relief provided by some of the acts performed.


So now we can head into Thanksgiving without sports on the brain, or a talent show to prepare for. There are not any family emergencies at the moment, and we're looking forward to sleeping in on the weekends and preparing our home and hearts for the family gatherings that are fast approaching. We're ready for this change, and the change will do us good.

ps - Thank you for all the warm thoughts, cards, emails, flowers, and plants. Thank you for keeping our family in your prayers. Thank you to those who attended Jean's Memorial Service Life Celebration. We've had so many compliments given to our family on the way Jean's life was celebrated. But truly our friend and pastor, Skip deserves the recognition for setting the tone and for Jean giving us much to celebrate. God Bless You all.

Jean Burton's Memorial Service

on Thursday, November 6, 2008

Eternal Hills Cemetery & Mortuary
1999 El Camino Real
Oceanside, CA 92054
(760) 754-6600

Viewing - Tuesday, November 11th
4 - 8pm

Memorial Service - Wednesday, November 12th
1 pm

Map to location: http://www.mapquest.com/maps/map.adp?formtype=address&addtohistory=&address=1999%20S%20El%20Camino%20Real&city=Oceanside&state=CA&zipcode=92054%2d5754&country=US&geodiff=1

The family respectfully resquests that in lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the MS Society in Jean Burton's name.

Contact Karen Barton at (760) 448-8412 for assistance from the MS Society.

Jean has been set free...

on Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Just a few minutes ago I finished speaking with both Ron and Eric about Jean. Around 11:30 this morning Jean went to be with the Lord and took her final breath in the body that's confined her for so many years.

A few days ago Jean awoke to a pain in her chest that turned out to be a massive blood clot nearing her lungs. She passed out and was taken by ambulance to the hospital. At the hospital they stabilized her body function and needed to take extreme measures to keep her alive. These extreme measures are not want Jean wanted. Over the next few days in the ICU she showed signs of life with eye fluttering, muscle twitching, chewing, etc. However, even though the tests administered to Jean showed blood flowing to the brain, there was severe damage when she was not able to get oxygen during her unstable time on Saturday. Also, the medicine used to bring her back, severely handicapped her brain function. As a result, the life signs we saw were merely muscle responses to her body relaxing, not a sign of brain function. The doctors concurred that Jean was not really there any longer, and as a family (husband, children, sister) it was decided that Jean would not want to live in this state on a respirator. They humanely agreed that removing Jean from the ventilator would be what Jean would want. The breathing tube was removed early Tuesday evening, and she continued to breathe on her own until late this morning.

Although it's going to be difficult to share this news with our children today, we can take comfort in these passages...

John 5:24 "I assure you, those who listen to my message and believe in God who sent me have eternal life." ... Jean was a Christian and she knew where she was going!

1 Corinthians 15:42 "Our earthly bodies which die and decay, will be different when they are resurrected, for they will never die." ...Jean is now dancing in heaven!

John 11:25 "Jesus told her, "I am the resurrection and the life. Those who believe in me, even though they die like everyone else, will live again." ...Jean believed!

Lastly, I know that not all of our friends understand what it's like to be a believer and to know the Lord. We all have doubts. Some may look at a person like Jean and see the MS, the illness, the weakness. Eric and I have often wondered why Jean was given this burden in life. But then we've also seen that through her, our families have more compassion for others. We've raised money for the MS cause to find a cure - would we have done that without her being sick? Our children know that a wheelchair is not a death sentence. They've ridden on her lap, played with her "special toys" - like the chairs that raised her up and down, and the scooters and wheelchairs that drove her around. This is like a bumper car to a child - and fun, not scary. So we can see life and change in us, because of her...

One last verse to end my note today...

2 Corinthians 12:9 "Each time he said, "My gracious favor is all you need. My power works best in your weakness." So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may work through me." ... Thank you Jean...I love you

Kelly

Jean in the hospital

on Sunday, November 2, 2008


Normally, I'd just post about our crazy weekend. Halloween costumes (Taylor was a candy corn & Sammie a bee). And how Eric ran in the NY Marathon today (11/2) and finished all 26.2 miles in a personal best of 4 hrs and 13 minutes. However, all of this greatness is overshadowed knowing that Eric's Mom, Jean, is currently in the hospital in Oceanside fighting to wake up.

As you may or may not know, Jean has Multiple Sclerosis and she's battled with it for 35+ years. She's gone from a belly-dancing, aerobic class taking, nurse and teacher, to a woman who is hand fed by her loved ones and taken care of 24/7 by Ron (her husband) and her hired care takers. She can no longer even use the controls on her wheelchair and she must be pushed. It's been a long road to say the least. It's been difficult to watch someone so alive on the inside succumb to such a horrible disease. She's a model of grace and love, with a ready smile for everyone she meets. And we know that if she doesn't come through, she'll be going to meet Jesus, because that is where her hope lies.

In the next 24 hours we'll get the results of her scans to know if there is still brain activity, and if the blood clots they found in her chest have been reduced. She's stable right now, but still intubated. She may wake up on her own, however the doctors did not want to raise any hopes telling me that she may not wake up at all.

So, after spending the night with family and being close to the hospital, we're now home and waiting for Eric's flight to arrive from NY. He'll spend tomorrow with his family in Oceanside. It was difficult for Eric to stay in NY to run knowing what was going on here. He got the news only hours after arriving in NY too. However EVERYONE here told him to stay and run - this is what Jean would be telling him to do! On a side note, both of Eric's uncles and one aunt had scheduled more than 6 months ago to be here for a visit. They've all arrived and isn't God amazing to know that Ron and his children would need the support of their extended family this week.

Thank you for following our family. God Bless You All!
Kelly

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